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The Power of One Tweak


It has been almost two years since I last tried getting Dr. J’s hair cut at a public place. I’ve been cutting it at home, and once in a while Daddy takes a shot at it. I had a revelation last time I cut his hair–ask him to tell you something else that is as scary as getting his hair cut. Then you can understand his fear better. 

So I did. For my son, getting his hair cut is as scary as getting his blood drawn.

As I was prepping for this week’s try, I couldn’t remember what he had told me. He couldn’t remember either, but he said, “It’s as scary as a shark biting off my leg.” As he was saying it, I suddenly remembered and reminded him about the blood draw. He said, “Yes, that too.” Now in my mind a shark biting off my leg is much scarier, but hey, I’ll take him at his word.

Dr. J has made a lot of progress, but he still hates the process, and there’s usually at least some tears or watery eyes, some yelling, and a lot of flinching. We actually haggled over when I could cut his hair one Saturday morning. The conversation went like this:

Me: you need a haircut.

Dr. J: I don’t want my hair cut.

Me: You really need one. What if I let you do car puzzles on my phone while I cut your hair?

Dr. J: I don’t want to get your phone dirty.

Me: What if I let you watch a movie on the Kindle and you can play car puzzles after?

Dr. J: *shakes shaggy head*

Me: I’ll give you a chocolate square to eat while I cut your hair.

Dr. J: *shakes shaggy head*

Me: You really need a cut.

J: I’ll do it on Tuesday.

Me: Is that a promise?

J: Yes.

Me: Go write it on the calendar.

So, that Saturday I was talking with other #youmightbeanautismparentif friends on Twitter about haircuts, and my friend Becky gave me a tip. She told me her barber gives her son a lollipop during his haircut. In the middle he’ll switch out lollipops so it doesn’t get hair on it. I tried it. PURE GENIUS! I would hug that barber and Becky if I lived near them!


And there it is, dear readers–the power of one tweak. With that little change of adding the lollipop, I was able to get the best haircut in a long time–maybe ever! The lollipop gave him something else to concentrate on, even though he was also watching a movie and I’d used that trick many times. I think the physical act of sucking on the lollipop is what helped. There were no tears. No yelling. Just a few flinches.

Boy, I was so proud of him!

I also tweaked something else this week. My bathroom now has a new shower curtain. See that bright paisley picture up there? I know it’s not the most sophisticated choice, but I love all the color options it gives me. As an added benefit, the bright colors and whimsical pattern make me feel happy. I didn’t realize how happy until my gracious hubby hung it up for me. Plus, Meatball exclaimed when he went in the bathroom–“Wow, this toilet is clean!” I hadn’t cleaned the bathroom. It was simply the new shower curtain that made everything look better.

And, now it’s your turn. Get those thinking caps on, readers. What is one thing that you can tweak this week? I’m not talking a monumental change that takes a tremendous amount of effort. Maybe it’s moving the coffee grinds to be stored near the coffee maker, saving time and space. Perhaps you just need to dig out an old candle holder that you’ve forgotten about and change the landscape of a room a bit. Maybe you need to buy a can of whipped cream to go with your afternoon hot chocolate. (Oops–that’s on my list!)

Ready to share? I’m curious!

Author: Jenny Herman

Jenny Herman is not anyone special or a hero. She's just a working special needs homeschool mom who uses the Power of One to "just keep swimming". Visit her blog to learn more.

4 thoughts on “The Power of One Tweak

  1. Aww, Jenny – So glad this little tweak could help! I just posted a link to my post and yours, on the barber’s facebook page. So glad to be on this fascinating journey with so many others so we can partner together in things like this! Big High 5 to Dr. J for his success getting his hair cut!! Have a wonderful week!

  2. This is a cute story, it gives some nice idea how little kids can overcome their fear of cutting out their hairs! I’m happy for you! You are very inspiring… thanks for spreading the happiness!

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