Some of you have probably been wondering, “All that Power of One stuff is great, Many Hats Mommy, but don’t you ever get discouraged?”
That’s the whole reason the Power of One came to be–to help me fight discouragement!
But, let’s be honest. Even the most self-controlled minds (and I don’t claim to be one) get tired and lose the battle sometimes. That happened to me last Thursday.
Story time at the library has provided Dr. J with many opportunities for growth. In fact, he has made great strides in this area. Remember the name tag victory I cheered last month?
Well, these past two weeks story time was a bit of discouragement for me. The first week I noticed Dr. J putting his toilet-paper-tube penguin in the face of the boy next to him. The boy kept pulling away, but Dr. J didn’t stop.
I asked him about it on the way home, and Dr. J said, “But I was just trying to play.” I explained that in general, people don’t like things in their faces, just like he doesn’t.
This past Thursday I noticed the developmental delays even more, and it really saddened me. During the actual story time, the kids are in a room with big carpeted steps and they sit on those to listen to the story, sing songs, do action rhymes, etc. Then they come into the glassed-in craft room to do their projects related to the story.
I could see Dr. J through the door window in the story room, and when I looked in he wasn’t acting like the other children. They were standing up with the librarian, participating in whatever she was doing. Dr. J was lying down on his back, kicking up his booted feet from time to time. Later other kids were sitting and paying attention to the story. Dr. J kept turning around, sometimes standing up.
It’s times like these when the difference is glaring. Sometimes because he’s made so much progress, I forget. Then I see him around his peers and remember.
For whatever reason it really bothered me. In fact, I cried.
See the power of one discouragement? I couldn’t stop thinking about it, and when I went to the store later I promptly bought some dark chocolate chip gelato. Definitely an impulse/emotional eating purchase. And I ate some when I got home.
Thankfully, I felt mostly better the next day. There’s still a bit of sadness there, but it’s not as consuming.
That’s where we need to break the power of discouragement. Sure, we all get discouraged. None of us control our minds and emotions all. of. the. time. Where we can win over discouragement is when we go back to the power of one attitude and one task and get refocused again.
I am thankful for the children’s librarian who works patiently with Dr. J and makes sure he has other boys to sit with at the table when they work on their crafts. I am thankful for the other librarians who are so kind to my children and are not phazed by Asperger’s syndrome (Dr. J) and drama (Meatball). And, I am thankful for progress. Dr. J couldn’t attend story time before. He didn’t have the self-control he has now.
How will you break the power of discouragement today?